Relationship Counselling
Relationships are where we often feel our deepest joy, and sometimes our deepest pain. Whether it’s a romantic partnership, chosen family, friendship, or polyamorous constellation, relationships shape how we feel about ourselves, how we connect with others, and how safe we feel to be who we truly are.
Most relationships don’t break down because of a lack of love. They struggle because partners get stuck in rigid patterns of protection, blame, withdrawal, or control. Over time, these patterns erode connection, intimacy, safety, and desire, even when both people genuinely want things to be better.
I work from a Relational Life Therapy (RLT) lens, an approach to couple work that helps partners move out of blame and disconnection and into greater accountability, respect, and intimacy. RLT understands conflict not as a failure, but as a window into deeper attachment needs, unmet longings, and learned relational strategies. In our work together, we focus on what each partner does when things get hard, how power and responsibility are distributed in the relationship, and how old survival patterns show up in present-day connection.
Relationship counselling with me is active, honest, and relationally focused. I don’t take sides—but I do take the side of the relationship. This means slowing down reactivity, naming patterns as they unfold in the room, and supporting each partner in developing greater accountability, emotional regulation, and relational maturity. The work is not about “being nicer” or avoiding conflict; it’s about learning how to stay connected and respectful even when you disagree.
The aim is not perfection or harmony at all costs, but a relationship grounded in mutual respect, emotional safety, and the capacity to repair when things go off track.
I work with:
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Monogamous, non-monogamous, and polyamorous relationships
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LGBTQIA+ couples and partnerships
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Intercultural and interfaith relationships
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Long-distance relationships
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Relationships navigating major transitions (parenthood, relocation, career shifts, illness, or loss)
Relationship counselling can support you to:
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Identify and shift repeating conflict cycles and power struggles
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Build relational skills for honest, regulated communication
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Take responsibility for your part without collapsing into shame or blame
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Repair trust after ruptures, betrayals, or emotional injuries
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Navigate differences in needs, values, desire, or attachment styles
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Deepen emotional and physical intimacy
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Create clearer agreements and boundaries in non-monogamous relationships
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Face external pressures (family systems, cultural expectations, work stress) as a team rather than adversaries